Woman Inside a Man and Man Inside a Woman

Its the festival of Navratri which will go on for five more days and five more nights , its thee festival that celebrates the power named Woman. 
   Woman in itself is another name of power and when i say the word power i mean the power of will, influence, wisdom, observation ,tolerance and patience. Its a stupid thought to measure the tolerance level of woman because the levels of pain a woman goes through to give birth to a baby and bring a new life into this world is immeasurable and we all know that a man is not capable enough to give . birth to a baby; and if you talk about physical strength which man claims to have more than a woman , you can find such strength in wild animals wandering around the forest, the main question here is that if you don't have the strength to control the reigns of your mind which gallops like a wild horse or if you don't have the strength to keep the self belief within you intact when surrounded by discouraging and condescending situations then all your effort to make yourself physically strong is futile. 
Lets face it we are not as patient as a woman ; no doubt we men go through a lot of suffering and tough situations in this funny and amusing journey of life but in this path we crib and whine about those situations too whereas a woman suffers silently and doesn't say a word and when we hear the story of a successful woman's life we shed at least one drop of tear and we accept it too that had we been in her place we would have killed ourselves and would have given up on life , if you don't believe me then try to know about a woman called "oprah winfrey "  probably her journey to the pinnacle of success might help you understand what you can't by reading this blog.
Thus my guy friends i have a peace of advice for you if you want to be called a real man , a true man and that advice would be to "give birth to the woman inside you" ; yes that's right instill the woman inside you. Show chivalry and abandon chauvinism ; think from your heart too when required , follow your instincts , listen to your inner conscience , control your desires and baseless lusts which takes you no where in life  , try to recognize and control the  "ego of masculinity"  that we all men are born with .
We all men are born with two things that are within us i assume even before our birth , one being our ego of masculinity and the other of  "our feminine nature" . Yes we do have a feminine side in us which we need to recognize and instill the virtues of that side and control the vices of it . We are always provided choices and in this case too we are given two alternatives to choose your feminine side or embrace the ego of masculinity and we always end up doing the latter. 
     I ask you to give it a try to go with the former alternative and see for yourself that how do you progress in life . I don't say that our ego of masculinity will perish instead it will taunt you and tempt you to choose it again all you have to do is keep a check on your ego . 
         To my female friends and readers i don't think i need to say much, but take pride in being a woman , abandon fear and take a stand against prejudice , instill self belief , wisdom and "follow your dreams " like "kalpana chawla" had said because doing this will "give birth to the man inside you "  because in the end it's all about making your choices .We men ought to know that the Shiva whom we pray is just one half , the other half is called sati/parvati but primarily she is called "SHAKTI" .
I have been surrounded by the presence of women in my life whose influences and teachings have made me what today i am in front of you my readers, I respect all those women who have been and still continue to be in my life deeply . I have also humiliated and ill-treated few of those women in some incidents and when i look back at them i feel ashamed of myself and curse the ego within me that made me do this for which i might never forgive myself  till the last breath exhaled by me . I consider this as a way to show my respect , remorse for all ill said and done by me to them . And i urge all of you to introspect yourself and give these feelings of mine a little bit of thought .

My Purpose of WRITING and your purpose of READING !!!

I will be honest in this post of mine ; apart from expressing my views and thoughts about certain aspects of life I had started this blog to fulfill a dream which looks faded and vague for the time being . A dream of becoming a writer , to write my thoughts in a direct manner like this blog or in a fictitious one like novels or short stories. I now imagine myself  co-writing a book with an author as famous as Durjoy Dutta for now ; to write a novel like my idols Amish Tripathi and Ashwin Sanghi a.k.a. Shawn Hagins is a distant dream for now, not that I am thinking low of myself  because i want to accomplish these dreams of mine too, but for now i want to take these baby steps and all i need is your feedback, love and support.

Your role is important for any other novel of any novelist for that matter to work. I as a reader believe that if read between the lines we can know what the writer is trying to tell us , what are his/her feelings, in other words we connect with the author; the story may have many loop-holes or myths which seem too amusing to be believed but  if we widen our gaze we can gain enough knowledge to enlighten ourselves all we need is a perspective to read novels . If we do this a novel based on fiction will also a whole new level of importance.

My first instance of enlightenment was when I read the Mahabharat , my most favorite story till date . There is no evidence of this story being based on real events , no evidence that the characters of that story ever existed . If read with a very rational mind the story seems very ridiculous, unreasonable and not convincing enough just because we were conditioned since childhood that the story is true and when we grew up we saw it in a rational manner and criticized it . When i read it I learned something , a lesson that i never will forget and i don't even wish to forget it " Atrocities done to a woman will lead to your very own destruction in the end; a woman might have said or done something wrong to you but your act of attacking her modesty and chastity will not justify the reason of your act . We humans are in the intermediate position between gods and demons. We have the vices such as Lust , greed , jealousy, insecurity, and many more such vices ,well i admit that i do have them in me  but if we strengthen our minds enough that we can suppress these vices to an extent that they don't seem visible to the world around us we can win the world's love and respect and if we dont control them and let them bring the worst of us then we are as good as the ruins of the world's bloodiest war." that's what i have learnt .But it saddens me that giving the reference of this story the society has went on to suppress women , thought of them to be a reason of war , a cause of conflict between brothers . This is the interpretation of just one story , do we know how many such novels were misinterpreted by us everyday ??

Its time we introspect our minds and change our approach towards them . This will in turn help us understand the human nature in a subtle manner , if not the human nature we can understand our nature , we can rediscover ourselves  our joy would know no bounds once we did this . If we do this even we can start inking our thoughts and let the world know what do we think and share our thoughts and views. Everyone and anyone can become a writer .

I always thought of myself as an introvert and a person who is shy who keeps his thoughts and desires to himself , but if this is the truth why am i writing it for the whole world to read ??? and after i ask this question to myself i realize that i can open up in  front of the wold and share my thoughts without any pre-conceived notions and fear and have a clear mind rather than a prejudiced one. This assumptions of writers being introvert is a false assumption because through their writings they are just trying to talk to you , their approach however is different than usual ones so all we need to do is respond and as said we can't a friend as loyal as a book .